Why is this post titled foot massages & treadmills? Because
it is. I’ll explain.
I tend to forget how wicked my heart is and in need of Savior.
Yesterday went by too fast. We had church in the morning, went to lunch with
some friends and I worked on this blog cussing and being impatient as I tried to
figure out some dumb html stuff. Before we knew it was 5 o’clock and we decided
to rent a movie. Dustin also decided it would be a good idea to get food from
McDonald’s (I guess this means that I agreed). Monopoly at McDonald’s was
almost over, so why not? So off we went to go rent our movie and order our
McDonalds. After getting home, eating, and preparing for this morning’s coffee
and my husband’s lunch, it was time to watch our movie. Earlier yesterday, I
had left the treadmill down. I like to leave the treadmill down. Mostly because
I feel like when I do I am more motivated to get on it. I mean, it really only
takes 3 seconds to put it down if it’s been up. Whatever. Dustin asked me to
put it up (our treadmill is in our dining room and our dining room was huge
until we had some furniture in there recently...anyway). I instantly swelled
with pride. Mostly stemming from the fact I was mad at myself for just eating
McDonalds (I ate a snack wrap). My inner dialogue is, “Doesn’t he know that it’s
more motivating for me to leave it down? What is the big freakin deal if I
leave it down? He needs to just get over the fact that it’s down. It’s not the
end of the world. Seriously, you can walk on the other side of the dining
room.” Woof. I was reminded in that moment how I was making this a much bigger
deal than it really was. Why couldn’t I serve my husband by putting the
treadmill up? It only takes 3 seconds. I begin to be hard on myself, “Kiley,
you can do better. You just need to try harder next time to be nicer and to not
let those things affect you.” This is such BS. Sure, I can be nicer next time,
but not relying on myself to do so. My heart is the issue. My pride is the
issue. That’s where my need for a Savior comes in. “Lord, HELP me. Show me my pride;
show me the places of my heart that need to be reminded of your grace and your
love for me. HELP ME love my husband by serving him even if I do think his
request to have the treadmill up is absolutely ridiculous.” I didn’t apologize.
I put the treadmill as a way to serve (okay, in my heart I did it to appease my
husband, not because I wanted to). We put in our movie. There we were: bitter,
unresolved and not entirely pleasant.
During our movie, I asked Dustin to rub my feet. I ALWAYS ask
Dustin to rub my feet. In fact, it’s probably extremely annoying. He didn’t
immediately begin to rub them (I’m impatient, remember?) So, I said,
“whatever.” Ahh, yet another moment my selfishness and impatient heart comes
overflowing out of my loud mouth. Jesus, I need you. I find out later, that
during the whole movie, Dustin was mad at me. He said he was “holding a
grudge.” Now, don’t get me wrong...that’s not really my problem. However, I saw
how my sin so easily affected him and his heart. I don’t put that on myself,
thank the Lord, but marriage is supposed to be about making one another holy,
is it not? Not happy. What a terrible lie that we so easily believe from the
world. If we wanted to make each other happy we would be so exhausted. I would
want a foot massage ever 30 seconds and Dustin would want to probably never rub
my feet again. So, like, that’s not going to work out.
Anyway, the point is, I would love if Dustin and I could
communicate better and resolve conflict faster... we are working on that.
However, I am thankful for those moments that reveal the dark places of our
hearts so we can repent, forgive one another and continue to ask the Lord for
help.
Marriage has continually revealed to me my sin. I would say that
it’s been the most humbling thing I’ve ever done. Marriage is hard. I’m okay
with that. I’m okay with that because I am constantly reminded that my hope
cannot be found in my husband. Even if I wasn’t married, my hope cannot be
found in the idea of marriage. My hope cannot be found in “doing better, trying
harder.” My hope cannot be found in not eating McDonalds and working out every
single stinkin day. This is a place my hope can be found. It can only be found
in the cross of Jesus. That is where my hope and treasure lies. Jesus lived a
life we should have and died a gruesome death that we deserved. I am way more
sinful than I would like to think of myself, but more loved and welcomed than I
could ever hope for. God has no wrath left for me because Jesus satisfied that
on the cross (Romans 8:1). This is good news. This is the only news that gives
us the freedom to admit we have some jacked up and our only hope is found in
Jesus. Believe and trust that beautiful truth.
LOVE this! This is also a great reflection on Adam and I. We catch ourselves letting silly things anger us and for what reason? PRIDE. Heck, we're not even married and we're realizing some pretty awesome things together. Thanks for sharing, Kiley. Love you and miss you dearly friend.
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